04.01.09
Ships…
I’ve always found the transition from friendship to relationship to be very interesting. It’s especially interesting when it happens to your friends.
I have two friends - one girl, one guy - who have been dating for a while now. I’ve known the guy for more than half my life. I’ve known the girl for about 4 years. I maintained and enjoyed separate friendships with each of them prior to their dating and we all hung out in groups.
I’m happy for them, really. I think finding the person you’re meant to spend your life with is an amazing gift. They are a self-contained unit, actually. They don’t need anyone but each other - which for the most part is nice.
What I miss, in the transition of ships, is the individual friendship I maintained with each of them. She and I will hang out once in a while. I also hang out with them together. But I really miss getting together and having a beer with him. It’s something we used to do a lot.
I know when I make plans with one of them, unless it’s something like getting pedicures, I’ll see both of them - no matter which person I contact.
I sound bitter. And I suppose maybe I am a little bitter. I know that friendships change when people are in relationships - I’ve seen it with other friends.
I just wish I could occassionally steer the ship in another direction.